diff --git a/nftables_test.go b/nftables_test.go
index b6d0f1c..25c8148 100644
--- a/nftables_test.go
+++ b/nftables_test.go
@@ -3818,7 +3818,7 @@ func TestDeleteElementNamedSet(t *testing.T) {
 		Name:    "test",
 		KeyType: nftables.TypeInetService,
 	}
-	if err := c.AddSet(portSet, []nftables.SetElement{{Key: []byte{0, 22}}, {Key: []byte{0, 23}}}); err != nil {
+	if err := c.AddSet(portSet, []nftables.SetElement{{Key: []byte{0, 22}}, {Key: []byte{0, 23}}, {Key: []byte{0, 24}}}); err != nil {
 		t.Errorf("c.AddSet(portSet) failed: %v", err)
 	}
 	if err := c.Flush(); err != nil {
@@ -3835,6 +3835,22 @@ func TestDeleteElementNamedSet(t *testing.T) {
 	if err != nil {
 		t.Errorf("c.GetSets() failed: %v", err)
 	}
+	if len(elems) != 2 {
+		t.Fatalf("len(elems) = %d, want 2", len(elems))
+	}
+
+	c.SetDestroyElements(portSet, []nftables.SetElement{{Key: []byte{0, 24}}})
+	c.SetDestroyElements(portSet, []nftables.SetElement{{Key: []byte{0, 24}}})
+	c.SetDestroyElements(portSet, []nftables.SetElement{{Key: []byte{0, 99}}})
+
+	if err := c.Flush(); err != nil {
+		t.Errorf("Third c.Flush() failed: %v", err)
+	}
+
+	elems, err = c.GetSetElements(portSet)
+	if err != nil {
+		t.Errorf("c.GetSets() failed: %v", err)
+	}
 	if len(elems) != 1 {
 		t.Fatalf("len(elems) = %d, want 1", len(elems))
 	}
diff --git a/set.go b/set.go
index e320117..dc97c4e 100644
--- a/set.go
+++ b/set.go
@@ -44,6 +44,9 @@ const (
 	NFTA_SET_ELEM_KEY_END = 10
 	// https://git.netfilter.org/nftables/tree/include/linux/netfilter/nf_tables.h?id=d1289bff58e1878c3162f574c603da993e29b113#n429
 	NFTA_SET_ELEM_EXPRESSIONS = 0x11
+	// FIXME: in sys@v0.34.0 no unix.NFT_MSG_DESTROYSETELEM const yet.
+	// See nf_tables_msg_types enum in https://git.netfilter.org/nftables/tree/include/linux/netfilter/nf_tables.h
+	NFT_MSG_DESTROYSETELEM = 0x1e
 )
 
 // SetDatatype represents a datatype declared by nft.
@@ -391,6 +394,16 @@ func (cc *Conn) SetDeleteElements(s *Set, vals []SetElement) error {
 	return cc.appendElemList(s, vals, unix.NFT_MSG_DELSETELEM)
 }
 
+// SetDestroyElements like SetDeleteElements, but not an error if setelement doesn't exists
+func (cc *Conn) SetDestroyElements(s *Set, vals []SetElement) error {
+	cc.mu.Lock()
+	defer cc.mu.Unlock()
+	if s.Anonymous {
+		return errors.New("anonymous sets cannot be updated")
+	}
+	return cc.appendElemList(s, vals, NFT_MSG_DESTROYSETELEM)
+}
+
 // maxElemBatchSize is the maximum size in bytes of encoded set elements which
 // are sent in one netlink message. The size field of a netlink attribute is a
 // uint16, and 1024 bytes is more than enough for the per-message headers.
@@ -826,8 +839,9 @@ func parseSetDatatype(magic uint32) (SetDatatype, error) {
 }
 
 const (
-	newElemHeaderType = netlink.HeaderType((unix.NFNL_SUBSYS_NFTABLES << 8) | unix.NFT_MSG_NEWSETELEM)
-	delElemHeaderType = netlink.HeaderType((unix.NFNL_SUBSYS_NFTABLES << 8) | unix.NFT_MSG_DELSETELEM)
+	newElemHeaderType     = netlink.HeaderType((unix.NFNL_SUBSYS_NFTABLES << 8) | unix.NFT_MSG_NEWSETELEM)
+	delElemHeaderType     = netlink.HeaderType((unix.NFNL_SUBSYS_NFTABLES << 8) | unix.NFT_MSG_DELSETELEM)
+	destroyElemHeaderType = netlink.HeaderType((unix.NFNL_SUBSYS_NFTABLES << 8) | NFT_MSG_DESTROYSETELEM)
 )
 
 func elementsFromMsg(fam byte, msg netlink.Message) ([]SetElement, error) {